Even though embryo adoption has been around for more than two decades, sometimes this kind of adoption can be a bit of a brain bender. But when you consider that life begins at conception, embryo adoption is such a beautiful way to build your family and rescue embryos from being frozen in time and space. At the beginning of a couple’s embryo adoption process, oftentimes the idea that the embryos are created through the placing family’s egg and sperm begins to form in their minds.
What surprises many adopting families is learning that nearly 50% of donated embryos are created through donor egg or sperm.
But if you put yourself in the shoes of the placing family, this decision is not so surprising. The desire to build a family can be extremely strong. Perhaps a family has gone through three rounds of IVF with no success, and the doctor advises them to consider using a donor egg. Many infertile couples continue their journey with a resounding YES! to donor egg and/or sperm.
What are the Pros and Cons for adopting couples thinking about adopting embryos created with a donor?
- Due to the average age of the donor, these embryos are typically more rigorous in achieving pregnancy.
- Careful screening of donors for genetic, medical, and psychological issues is done.
- You will receive a donor profile from the fertility clinic as part of the matching process.
- Many adopting couples’ hearts and minds are put at ease when they realize that children have been born to the placing family resulting from these embryos.
- Discovering the identity of the donor can be difficult, as anonymity is still common-place in the fertility world.
- The donor’s health history is not updated after the time of the donation.
What are some special considerations to keep in mind when adopting embryos created with a donor?
- Work to understand the placing family’s motivations. Start by remembering your own grief work around not being able to have a genetic child and your own family building expectations.
- Know you can choose to not adopt embryos created with anonymous donors, but be prepared for a longer matching time.
- It is your responsibility as a parent to build a solid foundation for your child by telling them their whole story. You don’t want your child to learn about their beginnings from someone else.
- There are resources available to you to help you explain to your child about their beginnings.