“How do you teach your children about their racial identity?” Can you hear my teeth grinding? As an adoptive mom to Black and Native American children I know that it is a legitimate question (and I am faced with it all the time), but it is too huge to be managed with a simple one-minute statement; so I get a little frustrated when I am expected to.
That said, people still need some sort of answer, and a 30-minute lecture on race in America really isn’t what they are asking for. So here is a summary: In our family we acknowledge and affirm our children’s racial diversity on a daily basis with open, God-honoring and sometimes painful honesty and actions which reflect our commitment to their individuality.
For us that 32-word answer covers the reality of what we are faced with as a multi-racial family. At the root of the answer, it’s not about having Black friends or living in the inner-city — it’s about having a relationship with our kids that teaches them to acknowledge and respect each facet of how God made them. They can’t change the color of their skin, the arrangements of their DNA or the facts of their birth, but they can learn to be a whole person who is created in the image of the God and loves them.