What do you first think of when you hear the word adoption? Most people think of the earthly practice of adoption before they think of heavenly adoption, that is, they think of couples adopting children before they think of God adopting us as His children.
Throughout this new series of posts on the importance of adoption within the story of redemption I am going to use the word adoption in two different ways. First, I will refer to the practice of couples adopting children, both domestically and internationally, as earthly adoption. Second, I will refer to God’s adoption of us as heavenly adoption.
Earthly adoption is horizontal. It is one human being establishing a relationship with another human being. Heavenly adoption is vertical. It is God establishing a relationship with human beings. So what do you first think of when you hear the word adoption, earthly or heavenly adoption? Do your thoughts move vertically before they move horizontally? Most of us think earthly adoption before we think heavenly adoption. We tend to first think horizontally rather than vertically.
You may be wondering why I have asked this question. Let me explain by telling you a little about my family. God has given me the great and wonderful privilege of being an adoptive father of a multi-ethnic family. We are, what the adoption community calls, a conspicuous family. God gave us our first two children (a girl and boy) through biology and our next two children, two black boys, Isaiah and Noah, through adoption. I absolutely love being the father of a multi-ethnic family! It has its unique challenges, but it is a great joy to be in a family that mirrors, in miniature and imperfectly, the multi-ethnic family of God. Shortly after we adopted our second black child, a husband and wife were sharing in our excitement over the new addition to our family. I happened to be holding him as we were talking. After I finished telling his adoption story, the wife paused, looked at our two boys and then asked, “Are you and Melissa planning on telling them that they are adopted?”
I waited to see if her face would provide me with any evidence that she was joking. It didn’t. Not even the slightest smile or smirk could be found. It appeared she was serious (I often wonder what her husband thought of her question!). So how did I respond? I simply said, “Yes, we are planning on telling them.”
If you are parents of an adoptive family, you have been asked similar questions. But I’m convinced that fewer questions like the one above would be asked if we thought of heavenly adoption before we thought of earthly adoption, if we thought vertically before we thought horizontally. Why? Because for Christians adoption is central to what defines us. The apostle Paul is very clear: we are God’s children through adoption. I don’t know if you have ever thought about it like this, but God is an adoptive Father. Jesus, our Elder Brother, is God the Father’s eternal, only-begotten, natural Son. We believers are His children through adoption. This identity is fundamental to who we are. As adopted children, we enjoy all the rights and privileges of the relationship that God the Father enjoys with His eternal Son. This is an amazing reality and eternal privilege! We will forever be God’s children through adoption.
It is essential that we recognize that our adoption into God’s multi-ethnic family defines who we are. It is not incidental to our Christian identity. It is fundamental. If the truth of our adoption in Jesus Christ, our Elder Brother, were functionally central to our identity, in other words, if we daily thought of ourselves as God’s children through adoption and rejoiced in what we now have as members of God’s family, questions about whether adoptive parents will tell their children that they were adopted would not be asked. Instead, we would instinctively think, “Of course Christian adoptive parents will tell their children that they were adopted because adoption is how God brought them into His family and how, on an earthly level, God brought their children into their family.”
It is very important that we as Christians understand this: Adoption is heavenly before it is earthly. One is what God does; the other is what we do. Adoption is something God has done and is doing before it is something we have done and are doing. Adoption was invented by God even before He created the world (Ephesians 1:3-5). Adoption is how God brings us into His family. As a result, we should see the earthly practice of adoption as a wonderful, though imperfect, reflection of God’s work of adoption in Christ. You see, adoption is first heavenly before it is earthly.
I have enjoyed this page a great deal. We adopted our son last May and I find myself looking for other people who believe in God’s plan as we do and walk on faith. You have a beautiful family.
– Thank you for all that you have shared in this page.
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Thanks for posting this Dan! I often struggle with explaining to others that adoption is not a ‘second rate’ situation in both the heavenly and earthly realms. It seems to be human nature to rate it as somehow ‘less’ and that places us in huge danger especially when we consider our relationship with God in that light. I am adopted by the Lord and so thankful!
Great post Dan! “Heavenly before earthly” – AMEN! I am looking forward to the rest of this series.
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I think we can definitely make a biblical case for adopting bona fide orphans. I look at the other biblical situations often touted as “evidence ” that the Bible “supports adoption” (the way late 20th and early 21st century America defines it…where an infant or child is stripped of its identity, and raised by strangers.)
Look at Moses. He “should have been grateful” to have been adopted out of slavery and into a life of privilege & education in Pharoah’s court, no less. But what happened when he recognized the truth? “Let MY PEOPLE go!,” he said.
I see many parallels among today’s adoptees…. we “should be grateful,” how do we *know* that being relinquished is the root of our ‘problem,’, finally, we cry, LET MY PEOPLE GO. We aren’t always grateful for what was done, *purportedly on our behalf.* We wish you wouldn’t ignore us, particularly in the name of Christ.
I see adoption as practiced today not as benevolent Christians who want to provide homes for children so much as infertile couples who feel that they deserve a healthy white infant, and if they have to lie and strip the identity of someone else’s, so be it.
OK. Samuel. His mother “brought him a little coat” each year. How many Carolina Hope adoptive families might be comfortable with that level of openness? Seriously.
Finally, is encouraging and enabling mothers, however pagan or heathen, and ESPECIALLY Christian women, pleasing to God? Lamentations 4:3 was written when times were much like today. Jeremiah lamented that women, nay, mothers, who purportedly followed Him weren’t mothering their own offspring.
I believe a biblical case for adoption of orphans is a given, but fail to understand how encouraging women not to mother their offspring (in favor of stripping the identity of a child for more ‘deserving’ parents) is pleasing unto Almighty God.
Great post–well said! We’ve found that Biblical/spiritual adoption gives us great encouragement and motivation to talk openly and honestly about earthly adoption.