When we discovered that I was an ideal candidate for IVF several years ago, I was elated! My husband, however, was apprehensive. I am the “seize the moment” type of person, where my husband is the more logical, big picture personality. I saw the opportunity to have a family… He saw the possible moral dilemma we would be facing in the future.
We were blessed to have three positive pregnancies from two IVF transfers! The first resulted in a healthy baby boy, the second unfortunately ended in miscarriage, but the third was with triplets! Our family was now complete.
But we still had four embryos.
After years and years of struggling with what to do, we eventually decided that we would try to transfer them ourselves. However, the Lord had other plans. I was diagnosed with Chronic Lyme Disease and my doctor strongly advised against us trying to get pregnant again with the remaining embryos. We prayed and searched for options when the Lord opened doors that ultimately led us to the Snowflakes Embryo Adoption Program. We had no idea that such a program existed! Once we heard about Nightlight and their embryo adoption program, we knew that this was the right path for us and our embryos.
Although it was not easy, the Lord knew my heart and knew when I would be ready for this glorious match. It took years for us to finalize the process—not because it was difficult, but because I was struggling with whether I could go through with the adoption. I still was not ready to surrender completely. But when I did, my heart was changed forever!
In the beginning, my heart would sink into my stomach with every email from the agency. Especially when they announced they had found a match for our family. I was not sure my heart could handle it. But when I read Jason and Laura’s profile and could see their love for the Lord, I thought back to the days when I too yearned for a child of my own and knew the pain they were going through. I knew that the Lord had given us this opportunity to help them.
My life verse is Esther 4:14: “For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?”
I knew that all I had been through my entire life, the struggles with being infertile, the miscarriage, the high-risk pregnancies, weeks in the NICU, were all leading to this moment in my life—where the Lord would use us to help the most amazing, God-fearing couple to build their family. It was at that moment, that I had a peace that surpassed all understanding and knew this was God’s will.
We both agreed to have open communication via email. We have been in touch with Jason and Laura throughout this whole process. Unfortunately, their first transfer with the embryos did not result in a thriving pregnancy. However, we all know that God is good and that His will is perfect. We may not understand His plan right now, but we know that with His help and guidance, we are giving these precious embryos every chance at life.
We are eternally grateful for Jason and Laura and their obedience to the Lord and are praying for a successful IVF transfer in the next few months. We are so thankful for the Snowflakes Adoption Program and pray that the Lord uses our story to help another couple in our situation.