The PACC sends emails annually, on your child’s birthday, containing resources for various situations or topics to be aware of with your child’s new age. If you adopted an older child, there may be resources from younger ages that would be helpful for you now from a resource sent for another age. Additionally, it can only benefit you to prepare now for a later stage in your child’s life. We want all of these resources available to you, so please take a moment to browse the topics below. You can also contact the PACC for additional information at any time.
Resources by topic
Balancing structure and nurture
Book: Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel J. Siegel and Mary Hartzell
Learning in discipline
Book: Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children with Severe Behaviors by Heather T. Forbes
Book: Wounded Children, Healing Homes by Jayne Schooler
Book: Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self- By: David M. Brodzinsky, Robin Marantz Henig
Book: Whole Brain Discipline by Dr. Daniel Seigel
Book: The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively by Gary Chapman
This section isn’t just for domestic adoption. You may not have information on your child’s international biological family but that doesn’t mean you won’t encounter many of these themes with your child as they get older and have questions about where they come from.
Telling their adoption story from birth
Book: Telling the Truth to your Adopted Child by Jayne Schooler
Managing birth parent relationships
These resources are not specific to children adopted at an older age. Even if you adopted a child as an infant, we know their in utero environment and experience can also have lasting impacts on their emotional and behavioral development. Review these resources below no matter what age or location your child was adopted.
Discipline vs punishment
Impacts of trauma
Books: Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today’s Parents by Deborah Gray and Toddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft by Mary Hopkins-Best
Science of trauma
Book: The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child’s Psychiatrist’s Notebook – What traumatized children can teach us about loss, love, and healing by Dr. Bruce Perry
Healing from trauma
Book: Primal Wound by Nancy Newton Verrier
Book: Parenting in the Eye of the Storm: The Adoptive Parent’s Guide to Navigating the Teen Years by Katie Naftzger
Book: Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Dr. Daniel J. Siegel
Book: Beneath the Mask: For Teen Adoptees, by Debbie Riley
Though these resources below are listed by age, with inaccurate birthdays and developmental delays, you may encounter situations with your child that fit under a different age. Be sure to read over all these topics below for guidance with your child now and in the future.