In December of 2017, I received an e-mail from a family who had adopted their 6-year-old son through international adoption the year before. In their e-mail they expressed feelings of hopelessness. They were writing to tell me that they were considering dissolving their adoption. In their e-mail they stated, “At this point we have exhausted all our resources”. I was particular struck by that statement. How could they have exhausted all of their resources, when they had not reached out to me, their adoption advisor.
Prior to this e-mail, I had already been dreaming about a way to stay connected with our adoptive families. I had long realized that after the adoption is final, many families do not return to their placing agency. In fact, some families feel that their agency has “dropped” them and doesn’t care. The staff person that they were previously working with has moved on to help the next family home with their child, and their time is limited. They are unable to reach out to alumni families and offer support. We remain here for our families, and It is our hope that families needing support will reach out to us. Unfortunately, that is not usually the case. I had begun to think and dream of a way to change this phenomenon.
Out of that dreaming and planning, came the Post Adoption Connection Center. I am thrilled to see this vision become a reality. On November 1, 2018, Nightlight Christian Adoptions officially launched the PACC. It is our goal to use this center to stay in connection with our adoptive families. We will be reaching out to you instead of waiting for you to reach out to us. We want you to know that we are here, and that we want to be your first point of contact for anything that you are facing. In addition, we desire for the PACC to be a place for birth mothers to stay in connection and receive support from our team. We are offering mentoring and education resources, as well as, counseling services. For more information about the PACC and how we can help, please click this link.
I am happy to report that the family I mentioned above is doing well today. I was able to put them in touch with our counselor on staff and through skype meetings and assistance, they made the decision not to dissolve their adoption. They were able to overcome the hurdles they were facing and move forward as a successful family. Nightlight Christian Adoptions serves our adoptive families for life. We are here for you even after your adoption is final. It is my hope that the PACC will assure our families that we care and that we are here for the long term.
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another – and all the more as you see the Day approaching” Hebrews 10: 24-25